Dealing with Nafs

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Two Characteristics of Nafs or Ego

Why do the man like prohibited acts? It can be observed that the man normally develops yearning towards the forbidden acts. There is an online game because of which many youth are committing suicide. Effective measures are being taken to stop this game but people watch with more vigor. The zeal towards the forbidden acts is in proportion to the strength to prevent these acts. Adam (AS) was prohibited from eating the fruit of a certain tree. There were many trees that he (AS) could eat from but he chose to eat from the forbidden tree. When a man is prevented from an act, he becomes greedier of that act. Careful observation show two reasons behind this human behavior:

  • The nafs or ego does not tolerate imprisonment. The nafs is already imprisoned by the physical body and when it is further constrained spiritually, it becomes furious. Voluntarily a man will stay in a house for a month but the moment he was ordered to not come out of the house, he would find it difficult to oblige even for a day as his nafs would become enraged feeling imprisoned and will pressurize him to move out of the house.
  • It is not the tendency of the nafs to obey others and it finds submission and obedience very difficult. Physically it can do the most strenuous acts but mentally it finds it very difficult to submit to any simple command. This is why the biggest religion in this world is worshipping nafs whereby people obey the nafs. In fact the people of this world can be broadly divided into two groups: One group who live by the command of the Lord and the other group who live by the command of their nafs.

It is because of these two characteristics of the nafs, the man finds pleasure in forbidden acts but not in permitted acts. Growing beard is very easy and it does not utilize man’s time, energy or money and it does not even hurt his skin but he finds it difficult to grow whereas he will take much effort and spend time, money and go through the pain to cut off the beard which is forbidden. Shariah has freed man from following unnecessary customs in getting married making it easy for him but he finds it difficult to oblige. On the other hand, the man will spend time, energy and waste his hard earned money which he laboriously saved for years in following the customs to please the people suiting the desires of his nafs. Do people really get pleased? Nay! He only earns up jealous people who will harm him. He finds it easy to do the most strenuous acts which will make one wonder because it pleases nafs but the simple easy acts become difficult for him as it goes against his nafs. This is the tendency of the nafs.

Go Against the Nafs and Enjoy the Jannah Right in this World

Irrespective of the difficulty endured by the nafs, the struggle we put to go against the nafs to please Allah SWT is what will make us attain Jannah. When we struggle against our nafs, Allah SWT will ease our path. If we go after the desires of nafs, there is hell behind its veil and if we abide by Allah’s SWT commands, definitely it is difficult for the nafs but there is Jannah behind its veil. I am not just talking about the Jannah awaiting in the akhirah but we will be able to taste the Jannah right in this world after a period of time if we go against our nafs. When we apply medicine to the wound, initially there will be stinging pain but later we will enjoy the health. Similarly, tolerate the displeasure of nafs in the beginning and later you will enjoy the Jannah of this world. If you do not apply medicine for the wound fearing the momentary pain, the wound will start rotting from inside leading to intolerable pain. Know that if you tolerate the difficulty and displeasures of nafs for Allah SWT, it will bring in the taste of Jannah like how the medicine brings health.

Sins will make the Life Hell

If you want to see the life of hell, look at the lives of sinners. Depending on the depth of the sin committed, deep is the hell life of the sinner. There are countries which are called paradise of this world but their inhabitants are committing suicide. Why do they commit suicide? Their anxiety, worries and difficulties are so severe like those of inmates of hell who will cry, “Alas! We wish we are dead and become dust and extinct”. Just like these inmates of hell, the sinners of this world become exasperated desiring for death and commit suicide. Can you imagine the level of desolateness, anxiety, insecurity and worries they are experiencing in their lives? In spite of having beautiful weather, house and comforts, why do they commit suicide? Depending on the severity of sins in one’s life, he will feel the heat of the hell in his life. The heat will be less when sin is small and will be more if the sin is big but for certain sins make the life that of the hell. This is as clear as a day brought out by the sun. One cannot be deceived by huge houses, factories or cars as for sure the sins committed by a person would make his life hell.

Forbear the Stinging Pain of the Nafs

The Quran commands one to save himself, his women and children from the fire. This command was descended on the most intellectual people that ever came on the earth, i.e. the companions of the Prophet SAW. They were commanded to save themselves from the fire of the sins. This fire is not good for your women or children and you cannot overlook their sins. Children are unaware and ignorant of the consequences of sins meted out by their environment but they are heading towards the fire. Believing in Allah SWT and following His SWT commands will definitely be difficult for the nafs but there is health behind this stinging pain and the taste of worldly Jannah behind this difficulty. Those people who are blessed with tahajjud salah or solitude worship in the late nights and in the mornings find them more pleasurable than the tastiest food. The coolness, the tranquility and the pleasure that one feels from these ibaadat (worship) are incomparable.

When Hazrat ibn Taymiyyah (RA) was imprisoned and taken towards the prison, he exclaimed, “Wow! How wonderful it would be to spend my time in prison in solitude! Now I will enjoy my time of Jannah here.”  When the prison guard wondered at his words, he said, “My Jannah is in my heart and it is with me wherever I go.” Who can snatch away Jannah from the hearts granted by Allah SWT? When Allah SWT bestows one deen and purity outwardly and inwardly, he has attained the Jannah of this world. Allah SWT says that such people will have tranquility in their hearts and tranquility is experienced in Jannah too. In the Jannah of this world, the man remains peaceful all the time and in every single state. This is pleasure. So have patience over the difficulty of the nafs when obeying Allah SWT for this pain is only temporary like applying medicine on the wound which will be followed by the enjoyment of eemaan (faith). The heart might desire to backbite and see forbidden things but stop the tongue from maligning others honor through backbiting and stop the eyes from seeing forbidden things. Definitely the nafs would find it tormenting but soon you will feel the coolness.

How to control the Nafs?

Deal with the nafs just like how a smart patient would deal with the medicine. He aims for good health and eats the bitter medicine and if it is too bitter, he still convinces himself to consume it by adding little sweetness to it or eats something sweet immediately after the medicine so his body accepts it. Do not obey the nafs but deal with it like a smart patient. It also happens that the nafs itself would not like eating certain delicious food because it knows well that it will prevent him from enjoying all other delicious foods. So teach the nafs about the severe loss it would incur if it commits a sin and losing the blessings it is enjoying. This is how a smart believer will hold his nafs. He will fully have the control of the bridle and will not lose the rope from his hand. Sometimes he loosens the rope but will have control over it. As long as the nafs is on the straight path, he will be lenient with it and when it tries to deviate from the path, he tries to bring back with a soft approach and if it doesn’t respond well, he will bring back sternly. He will deal with the nafs like how he would deal with an ignorant wife. When she shows her weakness intellectually, he entertains her by being very considerate. When a wife becomes disobedient, the husband first advices her gently and if the advice fails, he keeps her away from him on the bed and if she still persists in her behavior, he becomes little stern on her. There is no whip greater than firm determination to control the nafs. Be determined that you will not disobey Allah SWT and there is no better whip than determination for the nafs. Let Allah SWT grant His divine help to lead a life pleasing to Him SWT. Ameen

-Morning Tarbiati Majlis-29th September 2017.

How to Attain Ikhlaas or Sincerity?

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The Hindrance of Ikhlaas: Love for Fame and Wealth

The biggest amal (deed) of a man is that of ikhlaas (sincerity-for sake of Allah SWT alone). With ikhlaas, a small deed performed becomes a means of amassing great reward. When a big amal is done ostentatiously, it doesn’t carry any weight or reward. Hazrat Abdullah bin Mubarak (RA) said, “Many small deeds yearn great rewards because of ikhlas and many big aamaal become small due to improper intention”. A man become mukhlis (a sincere person) only when he loses any value for love of fame and wealth. It is difficult to achieve ikhlas with the love of world. Fame and money are two big branches of the love of world. When a man loses worth for these two aspects in his heart, he becomes a mukhlis. He would neither be a yearner of fame nor of wealth. He would be only yearning for Allah’s pleasure. Even the small amal of a person who is fortuned with ikhlaas does not remain small. The ikhlaas adds weight to the amal making it heavier than the mountains. But there is a huge sacrifice behind this ikhlaas which is to lose yearning for fame and wealth which is not a small feat. It is not a small task to get rid of love for fame and wealth from one’s heart.

Fame and Wealth are Highly Unsteady

The acceptance of amal is to do with ikhlaas. When there is ikhlaas in an amal, it becomes eligible to be accepted. Many waste the rewards for their amals because of improper intention. Great deeds are carried out, great services are done but due to negligence of intention and ikhlaas, the hard work goes wasted. People become exhausted by performing aamaal but they gain nothing due to negligence. Before doing a deed, you can at least ask your heart, “Why you are doing this?” After completion of that deed, beg and plead to Allah SWT to accept it. This will ensure to get it accepted inshaaAllah.  Please Allah SWT. The reality of fame and wealth is that they are very unstable. The yearner of fame is always reliant on others. If others praise him, he considers himself worthy and if others consider him disgraces, he becomes humiliated. The wealth has a similar trait, it won’t stay with anyone permanently. In fact, the aamaal based on ikhlaas is more steady and permanent as it keeps progressing with reward and acceptance both from Allah’s side and the side of creations.

The Weight of Ikhlaas

As many people lose the rewards due to negligence of intention, they should be reminded of ikhlaas very often. The inducement of Ikhlaas should continue. Very big hospitals are built, masaajid are built, and religious institutes are built but if the intention behind all this is fame, then what is the use? All these acts are great but as the one doesn’t know what ikhlaas is, how to make the proper intention and what the base and soul of aamaal is, he just wastes the rewards. The correctness of intention is such a great wealth by which a permissible act becomes an act of worship. Ikhlaas is to do an act for Allah SWT. A permissible act done for Allah SWT becomes a worship. A simple act of ibaadat done with ikhlaas becomes mountain-like and heavier than mountains. Hajj is such a great worship but when done with improper intention one gets nothing but exhaustion. So is fasting if done for ostentation, one gets nothing but hunger and thirst. Thus great aamaal go wasted because of incorrect intention. Today we have aamal but no khuloos (sincerity, purity).

Ikhlaas Purifies the Heart from Spiritual Diseases

Unless the fame and wealth, the two big branches of love of world fall before your eyes, you cannot get ikhlaas. It is very difficult to attain ikhlaas without losing the above two aspects. When the fame or wealth stands before the aamaal, it dissipates all the rewards. One worked hard and assiduously but wasted the aamaal. What a great loss! Ikhlaas becomes a means for purity of heart from rancor, malice and other spiritual diseases and becomes a source of acceptance of aaamaal. When a man is mukhlis free from love for fame and wealth, he won’t have rancor, jealousy and malice for anyone in his heart as all these diseases or thorns grow on the tree of worldly love. When there is no worth for the world in his heart, how will he get rancor or malice? All these thorns come only on the tree of worldly love. When a man gets ikhlaas and he wants to please Allah SWT alone, his heart will remain pure from all the above diseases. Ilkhaas becomes a means for destroying sins. Hazrat Ibn Taymiyyah (RA) said, “When a man constantly do aamaal with ikhlaas, Allah SWT eliminates his major sins”. SubhanAllah! Such is the strength in ikhlaas.

Ikhlaas Eases Difficulties

There is a hadith that says a prostitute was forgiven for feeding water to a thirsty dog. This act was based only on ikhlaas. No one is watching her except Allah SWT and she is giving water to the thirsty dog to please Allah SWT. She was a prostitute and Allah SWT forgave all her major sins because of ikhlaas. Similarly removal of harmful things from the pathways with ikhlaas becomes a means for forgiveness of sins. We do so many permissible acts to which we are all accustomed such as there is none among us who do not eat or go to toilet or marry or wear dress or apply perfume etc. As we do not make correct intention, these acts do not become worship. By the blessings of proper intention and ikhlaas, these acts could have become worship. Difficulties eases through ikhlaas. It comes in a hadith that three people entrapped in a cave by a huge rock were brought out from the mouth of death by Allah SWT when they sought His SWT help through their deeds which they did with ikhlaas. One pleaded to Allah SWT that he served his parents only to please Him SWT, another said that he invested a small amount he owed a man in business and when he came back to get his due, he gave him back the wealth, cattle and slaves he gained through that business only for Allah’s sake and the third claimed that he had the complete control and strength to commit a sin but he gave it up when he was reminded of Allah SWT. All the three men presented these aamaal before Allah SWT and He SWT moved away the rock enclosing the cave where no air or light entered. There was none who helped them but solely by Allah SWT with His SWT power. Ikhlaas has a great strength. We keep saying we have obstructions in our lives and nothing but only sins are those obstructions that hinder our path. Difficulties are eased by the blessing of ikhlaas.

Ikhlaas Amasses Rewards

Due to ikhlaas, we can get reward for an act even if we lack the ability to do it. One can even attain the rank of a martyr or a mujaahid by ikhlaas while dying on the bed. There is a narration in sahih Bukhari by Anan bin Malik (RA). Some people stayed behind in Madinah while going for a battle due to some constraints but they got the same reward as those who fought because of their ikhlaas. Their intention was correct, their yearning was true, their aim was firm but they couldn’t go due to constraints and so Allah SWT granted them also the reward. Ikhlaas earns one reward. When an alim or faqih does a mistake but has correct intention, then Allah SWT rewards him even for his mistake. SubhanAllah! This is the wealth of ikhlaas. A man is protected from huge trials because of acts with ikhlaas. Allah SWT saved Prophet Yusuf (AS) from a great trial when it fell on him because he was a mukhlis. Ikhlaas makes a small act big, turns the permissible acts into worship, eases the difficulties and protects one from trials and amasses the reward. There are many aayats and hadith related to ikhlaas. Our beloved Prophet SAW said when a man prostrates with ikhlaas and gets up, his rank his raised to one degree and his one sin is forgiven. With one prostration with ikhlaas, Allah SWT is raising his rank, forgiving his sin and increasing his reward. Our Prophet SAW said when a man wakes up during the night and stands up in seclusion for prayer with eemaan and good expectation from Allah SWT, He SWT forgives all his sins. He is invisible to humans in the night, he woke up only to please Allah SWT, to earn reward from Him SWT and all his sins are forgiven.

If a man goes behind the funeral of a Muslim who is neither related to him by blood or by neighborhood nor has any commitment with attending his funeral but has the only intention to please Allah SWT and he prays janazah salah, stays until the burial, he will then return with two qirat of ajr (reward). The one who returns before burial will earn 1 qirat of ajr and the one who returns after burial will earn two qirat of ajr. The weightage of one qirat is greater than that of mount Uhud as comes in a hadith. Ikhlaas makes the amal heavy. A person might do the same act but if he aims something else, he wastes his amal. O the honorable ones! Ikhlaas is the life and soul of every amal. Ikhlaas is to do only for Allah’s sake and ikhlaas will enter the heart when the yearning for fame and wealth ends. Until a man is greedy of wealth and desirous of fame, it is very difficult to get ikhlaas. These attributes eat up a man’s amal. Before every amal, make the intention to please only Allah SWT and when you complete the amal, make duaa to Allah SWT to accept it. Prophet Ibrahim (AS) and Ismail (AS) were building Kaaba, great act as they will get reward of millions of people doing tawaf around Kaaba and after completion, they were found pleading and begging before Allah SWT to accept their act as He SWT is all hearing Who is hearing their duas and seeing their intention. The soul of every amal is ikhlaas. Sometimes the amal is really big such as building masjid, madrassah, hospital, feeding hundred thousands of people but due to incorrect intention, all goes wasted. First and foremost, shaitan doesn’t allow one to do amal, and if one stands up to do an amal, he doesn’t allow him to do with proper intention. And even if one does with correct intention, before reaching the grave, he makes it go wasted by mixing it with riyaa (ostentation). Let Allah SWT grant lkhlaas in our every single amal. Ameen

-Morning Tarbiati Majlis (24.02.2017)


The Secret of Pleasurable and Peaceful life

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The man of worldliness, is always in prison and difficulty. There is a worldly man and a religious man. The religious man always prioritizes religion irrespective of having the world or losing it. The worldly man prefers the world irrespective of having or losing the deen and he won’t feel the dust or breeze of peace. Only Allah’s slaves are fortunate of obtaining peace and pleasure. There is a skill which is the secret of their freedom. The source of sorrow is unexpected happenings and this is the reality of sorrow or distress. The righteous slaves of Allah SWT cut off this very root of placing expectations in worldly things. Why should then there be sorrow? Hazrat Gangohi (RA) said, “Do not have any expectations from anyone”. He then asked the servants, “Tell me what you think of me?” They replied, “You are our guardian, benefactor and we cannot thank you enough for your favors”. Hazrat said, “I am telling from my heart, do not place any expectation even in me but only in Allah SWT”. If tawheed is residing in every single vein of a man like this, how will he have any expectation from anyone?

There is judiciousness of Allah SWT in whatever He SWT destines for you. The similitude of this is like a mother who applies medicinal drops to the painful eyes of the child. The child screams out of pain and is angry with the mother but when he gets the understanding, he prays for his mother. Similarly whatever pain and difficulty Allah SWT is giving you, it is in your favor and for your benefit in both the worlds. Without trials in this world, we won’t turn towards Him SWT. The man remembers his Lord when he is in difficulty. Without difficulty, we won’t be equipped for the akhirah. If you get death in this state, you will be purified by the hell fire rather than by the trials of this world. It is better we get purified right in this world. I will give you the glad tidings that the punishment of hell is for the purification of Muslims and not to punish. You know when your house lamp gets greased, it is cleansed by burning it. You are Allah’s lamp but greasy and your dirt will be purified by the hell fire. Cleansing of our dirt right in this world will obviate our purification in the akhirah. Allah SWT purifies Muslims by sending them the trials and difficulties. Now tell me, isn’t this for your good?

It is beneficial for akhirah and dunya that a man’s akhlaaq (conduct and behavior) gets upright through trials and difficulties. Trials and tribulations make a man good natured and without them arrogance, pharaoh-like nature and devilishness gets inside him. By blessings of trials, one gets humility, submissiveness and he realizes his status when Allah SWT reprimands him with difficulties. Uprightness of akhlaaq grants one more peace. Bad natured person saddens everyone and people see him as a villain. The reality of world gets disclosed by trials and tribulations and a man realizes that the world is not a place to which heart should be attached. This realization is a great knowledge and the world coming before a man with its reality is a great door to knowledge. When this knowledge is not obtained, a man will be immersed in ignorance and ignorance is a massive defect. Let Allah SWT grant us all the right knowledge. Ameen

-Morning Tarbiati Majlis (24.03.2017)

Get Close to Allah Azzawajal

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Make Intention

People are often deprived of blessings of dhikr because they do not intent advancement and blessings from it. For example, Quran says Salah is effective in preventing sins. But we do not intent to pray to save us from sins. Start praying with this intention, you will see the effect. We have decided to pray and also to commit sins. Perform Salah with the intention to save you from sins by its blessings. You will see the effect. Allah SWT is truthful in His words, offering Salah properly will eliminate sins from our lives. Salah and sins cannot exist together just like fire and water. This requires you to pray with this intention. We do not abandon Salah because we know well we will fall into trouble. Our faith is weak and we do not abstain from sins thinking how we can do business, run a family and live in this world without lies. We have anticipated that the sins will save us from problems. We think the problems will erupt if we stop lying. Allah SWT is saying, “Give up sins and you will be saved from all problems”. Glory to Allah SWT. Isn’t Allah SWT the most truthful? Our thinking is contrary to Allah’s saying. Allah SWT is not just saying your problems will be eased but you will be delivered from the problems. Similarly, people are often deprived of blessings of dhikr because they do not intent advancement and blessings from it. Dhikr is done customarily.

A pious elder said, “A Muslim does not do a righteous deed with a bad intention but he just does not intent”. You will definitely benefit if you do dhikr or recite Quran intending to acquire its benefits, blessings and radiance. Make ablution contemplating on the Prophet’s SAW words, “Ablution washes away the outer and inner sins”. See how you get the noor (radiance). See the difference against performing ablution, Salah and leaving the masjid heedlessly without contemplating on their benefits and blessings. The love of Allah SWT is not attained from the righteous deeds if His love is not intended. Customarily doing the deeds won’t fetch us Allah’s love. The Prophet SAW said, “The voluntary worship will bring the kurb (closeness) of Allah SWT”.  This requires us to first aim for Allah’s closeness. Praying heedlessly without intending for Allah’s kurb won’t get us kurb. This goes with any aspect.

Be Consistent in Your Daily Activities

Hazrat instructs to complete the daily deeni activities (maamul) in any state irrespective of being in wudhu or while sitting or walking. Abandoning the maamul after establishing it will deprive its blessings. Do the maamul assiduously with your utmost capacity. In accordance to perseverance, awareness of Allah SWT and mindfulness of etiquettes, you will obtain its blessings. If one has an excuse due to illness and he cannot do ablution, do the maamul in any state. Do not discontinue. Hazrat Sirri (RA) was sitting under a tree when he felt a voice is emanating from the tree. Allah SWT guides His SWT slaves in His SWT own way. He heard, “O Sirri! Be like me. People pelt stones at me and in turn I give them fruits”. Hazrat Sirri (RA) said mockingly, “If you are a great saint, why do people throw you in fire?”.  It said, “My one weakness wipes away all my good characteristics. I sway in whatever direction the wind blows and I am not stable”. Do the maamul by any means. You may feel lazy, lack in concentration and have no time but somehow do it. Do not leave the maamul and inshaaAllah everything will set right.

The Prophet SAW advised us to do acts consistently though small. This is better than doing righteous acts being awake throughout the night. You don’t have to stay awake for 3/4th of night or ½ of the night or even 1/4th of the night. Just pray four units of voluntary Salah during night but for Allah’s sake pray consistently. Sometimes when you feel the sleep is dominant and you find it difficult to wake up, and not much time is left, offer Salah with the intention of praying tahajjud before going to bed. Do not abandon. Let Allah SWT grant us all tawfeeq (divine help) and this is greatly blessed. Ameen. Abandoning the maamul after establishing it will deprive its blessings. Our beloved Prophet SAW said, “O Abdullah! Do not be like the man who used to pray during nights and then left it”. Do not give up a deed after making it habitual. This resembles a man who visits his ruler frequently and after establishing good relationship, he terminates his visit. The ruler will be displeased right? There won’t be any complaints against the one who does not establish any relationship. You established relationship with Allah SWT and left it. Worship Allah SWT in private.  This relationship is very essential.

Keep the Islahi Talluq Intact

Hazrat says, in islaahi talluq (spiritual contact with a Sheikh), even if you do not act on counselling, maintain the contact. He doesn’t prescribe more daily activities lest it becomes difficult but the reformation of aamal is very essential. This contact is blessed and hence keep asking the sheikh. The shaitan severs the contact and created suspicion. The nafs and the mood then leads the saalik. When his faith in sheikh surpasses his suspicions, he will ask everything to the sheikh. So there is blessing in talluq.  One disciple wrote to his sheikh that his nafs finds it very difficult to control his eyes requesting to prescribe him something by which he can permanently despise this distressing act. The sheikh replied, there is no solution except taking courage and laboring assiduously. Yes there are two acts that can assist this: 1) concentrating on dhikr of Allah SWT being mindful and (2) pondering over the punishment such as what would be the sin’s reaction, its loss, which blessing it would snatch away and what sort of things I will be deprived of by Allah’s anger. These two acts can assist but one should actually take courage and work. You should exert your nafs. Allah SWT assures the punishment for sin if we do not repent. If not today, we will be punished tomorrow or in old age or sometimes later but the punishment is sure. There are hundred thousands of blessings of Allah SWT descending on us and we never know which blessing we lost or the door of blessings shut because of our sins. Allah decides to exalt us but due to sins He SWT leaves us at lower level. The sinner doesn’t realize this. Contemplation of punishment and loss incurred by sins will give courage by its blessing. A sinner who is habitual of sins gets tangled up by problems and when Allah SWT grants him piety, life pure of sins, his affairs get set right. When Allah SWT says something, there is power behind it and none can stop Him SWT.

Increase Your Faith in Allah through Aamaal

A saalik questioned about the ways of attaining yaqeen (conviction) in Allah SWT. In reply he was asked to perform aamal (righteous deeds) by blessings of which he will develop yaqeen and is the only way. Yaqeen is created only by amal. When a man receives from Allah SWT and take decisions with Allah’s help by means of aamal he develops yaqeen in Allah SWT. If we want something from Allah SWT, our beloved Prophet SAW asked us to pray haajat-salah. If one’s need is not fulfilled by two units of hajat salah and he continuously prays without giving up finally getting the yaqeen then inshaaAllah his job will be done with just two units of salah. One will get yaqeen only through aamaal.  As per Prophet’s SAW saying, “Charity stands in the way of calamity”, a person continuously gives charity until his yaqeen is increased by its blessing. Eventually he will have more yaqeen in giving charity than visiting the doctor and he will get more peace in giving charity like he pays doctor’s fees. Our Prophet SAW said, “Treat the sick with charity”. Who believes this today? Only through aamaal, the yaqeen increases. There is no other way. Generally people do not know the reality of mashwara (consultation). When they find the consultation useful or detrimental, they blame solely the adviser. Consulting with a trustworthy person who is righteous and pious makes the decision easy and the faithful person is pleased with whatever comes from Allah SWT. There will be a definite blessing in the outcome. Let Allah SWT grant us the tawfeeq for amal and the true understanding of the deen. Ameen

-Morning Tarbiati Majlis (23.12.2016)

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The True Purpose of Tasawwuf

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Sincerity and Courage

Fulfilling the rights of Allah SWT related to one’s inner and outer self with sincerity (Ikhlas) and assiduous attitude is what required from us.  A pious elder can say this or not but the command is to not break the zaahiri (superficial) and baatini (related to inner self) laws and to get steadfastness in one’s life. This is the real purpose of the life. Whatever the tasawwuf might mean to people but the real purpose of tasawwuf is to achieve ikhlaas and himmat (courage). The whole purpose of tasawwuf is to attain Allah’s pleasure and to gain courage inside us to do all good deeds. My eyes gets opened but I couldn’t perform tahajjud salah, in spite of knowing that it is a sin, I couldn’t control my gaze , I know it is wrong to say but I don’t have control over the tongue and so on and on. All these acts lack courage. The main goal of tasawwuf, tarbiat (upbringing), talluq (contact) with a spiritual guide and islaah (reformation) is to achieve courage and ikhlas. The main purpose is to attain Allah’s pleasure in every single deed introspecting why I am doing this and to develop courage to do any good deed. . If one aims to get a great talluq and high level of piety that even the thought of sin won’t cross his mind, then this will not happen. The sinful thought will come but if one gets the courage to not act on it, then Alhamdulillah he achieved his goal.

If you are expecting to not even get the thought of riyaa (ostentation), this will never happen. But yes if we introspect why I am doing this with such a vigor and the answer to this is to please only Allah SWT, then that’s an achievement. The accomplishment of islaah is to attain Allah’s pleasure in every single deed and to gain courage to save from all the sins and to do good deeds. Nowadays people do not take courage but they want to attain high spirituality with things happening spontaneously and get hatred towards sins miraculously. One disciple wrote a letter to Hazrat Ashraf Ali Thanvi (RA) requesting him to do something so the noor from his heart gets transmitted to his heart. He replied back that there is only phlegm in his chest. The main purpose is to gain the courage. Aforetime it was difficult to get the salah with first takbir due to laziness and now he gets the first takbir, aforetime he couldn’t perform nafil salah and now he is able to do, aforetime he was not able to control his gaze but now he could guard his gaze. This is courage. Whisperings, evil thoughts and attacks will keep coming but to save one self assiduously with courage is the true accomplishment.

Know that Our Entire Life is a Battle against Nafs and Shaitaan

Our entire life is a battle against evil self (nafs) and shaitaan. There was a very pious elder who kept saying on his death bed, “No, no, no”. Someone asked him what he is uttering in such a critical time! He replied that shaitaan is coming again and again to him and telling him that he has succeeded and he is saying no to him and not yet. It is said about Hazrat Abdul Qadir Jeelani (RA) that once a very bright light appeared before him which emanated a voice, “O Abdul Qadir Jeelani, you have achieved such a lofty status that you don’t have to offer salah anymore.” Hearing this he immediately sought refuge in Allah SWT from shaitaan as he instantly recognized that to be of shaitaan. The light then turned into darkness and told him that he was saved because of his ilm (knowledge). He again recognized that he is being attacked by the second weapon to mislead him and he replied no and it is not because of his ilm but he was saved by the grace of Allah SWT. The shaitaan keeps setting the trap one after the other. If one escapes from one trap, he will set the other trap. O the honorable ones! One’s real purpose is to get ikhlaas in every single deed by self-examining why he is doing that deed. A great buzurg (pious elder) belonging to Tabligh Jamaat by name Mufti Zainul Abideen used to say that one gets all the righteous deeds that are superficial and also the qualities of eemaan except ikhlaas which is achieved only lastly. This is the accomplishment of islaah. Now tell me is there anything bad in it? If you achieve this in talluq (spiritual contact) or bayat (pledge with a spiritual sheikh for islah) or islaah, there is nothing wrong. Today we can see people in holy sites with big beards, trimmed moustaches and turban emulating a spiritual aura but in the name of tasawwuf, there is too much of innovation associated with it. These innovations changed the color of tasawwuf when the real purpose of it is to gain courage and strength by the person which sets him on righteousness and he aims for Allah’s pleasure in all his deeds.

An Important Advice for This Life

In one meeting with Hazrat Ashraf Thanvi Raheemahullah, a pious person asked him for a brief advice. In reply, he reminded him of a hadith wherein our beloved Prophet SAW said,  “If you live until the morning do not wait for the evening and if you live until the evening do not wait for the morning and count you among the dead.” This is the advice for this life. This is the advice of hakeem-ul-ummat of our times who was granted the radiation of apperception by Allah SWT. Count you among the dead and don’t get excited by peoples praises or get disturbed by their criticism as these won’t affect a dead man. Someone said, “Worry about akhirah as we cannot predict the time of death. I am afflicted with the heart disease and whenever I feel the severity of pain, I think I am close to death. Allah SWT then lightens the pain and this goes on for five years during which many youngsters of sound health and strength passed away. Do not forget Allah SWT and do not forget the reality of our state”. Today we have forgotten both these things, our reality and Allah SWT. We forgot how weak, helpless and dependent we are. A pious elder said that everyone works, some for dunya (world) and some for deen. Irrespective of the nature of the work be it worldly or official or related to any job, the main thing is if one does it considering it to be his duty, then he is a waliullah (a close friend of Allah SWT). Depending on the sincerity in one’s work, accordingly it will have the weightage. A person is doing even the worldly work well because he fears that Allah SWT is watching him and thus he accomplishes his duty. This has more weightage. A person is doing the acts of nawaafil (voluntary) but if he doesn’t have sincerity in his worship, it is of no use. Contrarily, if a person carries out his clerkish task or dispenses his duty he is responsible for keeping Allah SWT in his mind that He SWT is watching him, it becomes ibaadat (worship).

Remember that any act can become an act of worship

People give importance to ikhlaas and riyaa when it comes to nawaafil acts of worship but when it comes to doing other duties such as official job or some other responsible job or writing fatwas, people don’t see the performers as waliullah. A person might be awake until 1 am to write the fatwa going through voluminous books but the person for whom the fatwa is being written may not know this and even if one wakes up in the night and see the person writing the fatwa, he won’t see him as a wali. The point is whatever the task be, its weightage depends on the sincerity. Irrespective of people’s understanding, they see me as pious or not, I should do my job purely for Allah’s sake. This can be writing down fatwas or reading books or teaching books. Normally for such acts none will call one a wali. If a person stands for nafil prayer for two hours, the people will wonder at him saying what a buzurg (a very pious person)! If the same person teaches a book for two hours, people will say he is just teaching while the fact is if he is teaching with ikhlaas, then this act of teaching will become an ibaadat (worship) surpassing the performance of nafil salah irrespective of people’s understanding. The poor people also see only such aspects when the real thing is one gets himmat and ikhlaas in every single act such as when he is talking with someone, he should contemplate why he is talking, if he is explaining to someone, he should contemplate why he is explaining and if he is discussing some issues with someone, he should contemplate why he is doing. He should do only for Allah SWT.

Let Us Live Only for Allah SWT

Let Allah SWT grant us all ikhlaas, which is very precious. This is why our beloved Prophet SAW said, “If any of you spent gold equal to Uhud (in Allah’s cause), it would not be equal to a seed of a date spent by one of my companions RA”. This is in pursuit of their ikhlaas. This is the real achievement of islaah that our inner zealousness changes and our life starts passing away for Allah’s sake. If we are talk to someone, meet someone, smile at someone and even distance from someone, it should be for Allah ﷻ. The loss, gain and desire everything should be for Allah SWT, our lives should go around this and every matter sake of Allah SWT. Live for Allah SWT, love for Allah SWT, have friendship for Allah SWT and let our entire life be for Allah SWT. Let this zeal develop in us and along with this, let one get himmat. The reason for prescribing zikr, recitation of Quran, keeping righteous companionship is to gain strength so taking courage becomes easy because of the blessings of these acts. The mere performance of all these acts is not the real purpose but to fulfil the rights of Allah apparently and hiddenly. Then there are other proscriptions to talk too much and to meet useless people. When following all this is not the real purpose but to make them the means to reach the real goal so the spiritual diseases get cured. These acts are not farz or wajib but are for the spiritual treatment. Sometimes a doctor proscribes banana. Is banana haram? No, but is proscribed so his stomach gets well so he can digest it later. So the real purpose is to have Allah’s SWT pleasure in the mind all the time and to do righteous deeds and save oneself from sins by taking courage.

How to gain the courage?

O the honorable ones! The truth is the sins have increased prodigiously in our lives that we don’t even realize a sin. This is like if I live in a stinky place, I won’t even sense the stink but when a nonresident comes to that place, he gets astonished how one can live in such a stinky place. But the resident do not feel same. And how would he feel as he has become very much acquainted with the foul odor. Today we have become so familiar with the sins in our society that we don’t even realize the sins. Or else a person coming from a fragrant place will suffocate as soon he steps in a stinky place becoming uneasy and worrisome. Take courage so neither the zahir nor baatin’s command gets broken. Let Allah ﷻ grant us all tawfeeq and for this some aamaal are prescribed. Give importance for tasbeehaat (paternoster) and now what if one doesn’t get courage to do even the tasbeehaat and to recite Quran? Listen, when one wants to eat food, he needs to make a little effort to bring the morsel of food from his plate to his mouth as it won’t fly and come. These maamulaat (daily activities of worship) are something very common and easy ones. When one gets himmat to do these simple acts, then we can develop enough strength within us to abandon that sin which our nafs is finding it very difficult. With persistent attitude and taking some courage do the acts of nawaafil, recite the Quran, have association with pious people and do the tasbeehaat in the mornings and evenings. Alongside, give importance to the duaa begging “O Allah! I am very weak. I don’t have any courage inside me. I intent, I desire but I fail. I go for two days and then give up.  I advance a little with few steps but I fall back. Ya Allah! You please help me.” So beg before Allah SWT and ask Allah SWT. If one does maamulat, have righteous association and make duaa, then he will get himmat and ikhlaas which are the accomplishments of this life. This is the real goal of our life to have only Allah SWT in one’s mind when he talks to his family, his children, his friends or is working anywhere. All these acts are worship and these are embellishing our akhirat. People may see this as buzurgi (piety) or not but these are all buzurgi. Let Allah SWT grant us all tawfeeq and make it easy. Ameen

-Morning Tarbiati Majlis (27.5.2012)

Be Humble and Attribute the Goodness Only to Allah, the Great

Aoudhubillahi minash shaitaan nirrajeem


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Goodness is Only from Allah SWT

Do not attribute any goodness to you when you work in Allah’s path. Be grateful to Allah SWT because it is He SWT Who used you in His SWT path by His grace and favor towards you. If not for Him SWT, we would never have any strength to work. If Allah SWT grants you righteousness, obedience and steadfastness, do not compliment yourself but know that it is from the mere grace of Allah SWT. Always attribute the excellence and goodness to Allah SWT whenever you get to work for Allah’s cause and never praise yourself. By doing this you will be granted two things: (1) you will be saved from the morbid vanity and (2) by being grateful to Allah SWT, you will be granted steadfastness. It is the promise of Allah SWT that He SWT will grant you abundance if you are grateful to Him SWT.

Sign of Working for Allah’s Pleasure

Hazrat Ashraf Ali Thanvi (RA) says that sometimes people appear to be very vexed for sake of deen and work exuberantly for Allah’s cause but all this vigor they show is either for one’s race or nation or for the love of fame. If a person does for purely Allah’s sake, then it would be in accordance with the shariah, commands of Allah SWT and Allah’s pleasure. He will work with Allah’s pleasure in his mind. A person can be very enthusiastic and vigorous in defense and service of Islam but as the purpose for all this is vanity and fame, he will work as per his wish without distinguishing between good and bad or right and wrong. A person does not abide by Islamic laws as his intention is fame. When you are ingrained with good abilities, when deeni work is extracted from you and when you are made steadfast, be grateful to Allah SWT because it is from His SWT pure grace and generosity you have been offered the divine help for all the above if you really seek Allah’s pleasure. By being grateful you will be saved from vanity and granted steadfastness.

Look into Your Heart

Disclosing one’s righteous deeds as such is not an evil thing and so is hiding any righteous deed not that great. Disclosing one’s righteous deeds is wrong only when you strongly believe that the deed is yours and intent that you get appreciated for it.  Revealing the good deed in such a case is very bad. On the other hand, if you ascribe it to the Creator when you reveal your deed, it is not bad but instead it will create a desire, urge and inspiration in others to do that deed. When you do a good deed, if your nafs becomes happy taking its credit, then it is kibr (pride). Alternatively if you think it is from Allah SWT, then it is gratitude. Your heart is your judge and observe how it feels. If you are happy attributing a good deed to your own superiority, it is kibr. If you think it is by grace of Allah SWT, it is gratitude and know that such a deed is accepted by Allah SWT. When a person’s mind is fixed on Allah SWT, his deed will remain insignificant to him. He will be worried the whole time he didn’t fulfill the rights of Allah SWT. A person will think high of himself when his mind is fixed on his self.

Good Deed is Already a Reward

As much work Allah SWT extracts from us is itself a reward, then why should we yearn for reward for reward? SubhanAllah! When Allah SWT grants you His divine help to carry out righteous deeds and when He SWT mines some deeni work from you in one way or the other, that itself is a reward. When this reward in itself is a great reward, then what other reward you are asking or yearning for? Reward is received for good deeds but here a good deed by itself is a reward. When did it we ever had the ability to any good without Allah’s help? When something disturbing happens to a person, he gets a strange feeling that he is so pious and righteous then why such a thing is happening to him? This means that somewhere he is thinking high of himself for the good deeds he is performing. He thinks himself worthier and that is why he is seeing the tendency of complaint in him. If he thought it is because of the divine help of Allah SWT he is doing a good deed when he is not worthy of any good deed, he won’t have any inclination of complaining.

What Are We Complaining For

If one believes that the divine help Allah SWT provides is from His grace and is a reward when he is not worthy of it, there won’t be any tendency in him to complaint. Contrarily a person astounds on seeing a calamity befalling him as he thinks it to be not befitting for his high level of piety. He thinks he doesn’t have any evil in him then why does he face such calamities. The fact is if we are to ever search for a salah with concentration from beginning to the end of our prayers performed throughout our lifetime, we won’t even find a single salah. With this poor state, a person thinks himself to be very pious! Say a person is talking to you but he is turning his face away from you, how bad will you feel? Will you ever bother to talk to him again? It is the forbearance and generosity of Allah SWT that He SWT makes you stand before him when your words are for Him SWT in salah but the face of your heart is turned elsewhere. Allah SWT still hears you and this is solely His SWT reward and benevolence. It is merely His SWT grace that He SWT is providing His SWT divine help for good deeds.

Accomplished People Never Boast

The feeling of pride over one’s accomplishment in itself is a sign that he is devoid of any accomplishment. The accomplished people are never prideful. As these people really attained the accomplishment, they are granted humility and they never boast. If one is truly excellent, he will have in him this quality that he won’t think himself excellent. Contrarily if he is not excellent, he will boast on his excellence. The tree full of fruits remain bowed down while the one with no fruits stands erect. A person with true accomplishment will find in him high humility and modesty. The divine help for righteous deeds is from the grace of Allah SWT. Yearning for prayer and waking up for tahajjud are not your work but it is someone who is waking you up. This will keep going as long as His eyes of generosity is turned towards us. If Allah SWT gets any work from you, see that as His SWT grace because all goodness is solely in His SWT control. So never feel great if you perform any good deed and never look at any sinner with disdain. May Allah SWT grant us all this ability for this is piety. It is not easy to always have our evils before our eyes and to remove the disdain for others from our hearts. We should keep examining our nafs from time to time.

Look Down Your Own Self

Our Prophet SAW taught this duaa to his ummat, “Allahummajalni fee ayni sagheera wa fi a’yuninnaasi kabeera”. “O Allah! Make me small in my own eyes but great in other people’s eyes”. It is very evil to look at one’s own excellence and feel proud. There are many evils which we are aware of for which we repent but there are many evils and diseases of our heart which we are not aware of and do not repent for. We are not aware of the poisonous and morbid diseases of hearts. We do not consider them as sins and hence we do not take any treatment and repent. These diseases snatch away all the noor of righteous deeds and finish off the spirit of the righteousness. So keep examining yourself in this regard. Worship and do the deeni work but at the same time know that this from the grace of Allah SWT.

Ask Allah SWT and Always Be Grateful to Allah SWT

Dr.Abdul Hayy (RA) used to say that the biggest mujahida (struggle) of our times is to show gratitude to Allah SWT every single time when we receive the blessings related to this world or deen. Be grateful to Allah SWT every single time that it is because of His SWT grace, benevolence and generosity we received the blessings related to world, health or spiritual wellbeing. One do not know how this very gratitude can uproot numerous spiritual diseases. This gratitude need not be verbal but gratitude is to do with the inner condition. If one is fortunate to get this quality, he can be saved from several spiritual diseases. One won’t have jealousy, arrogance, vanity and so many other diseases when he gets this quality. The gratitude will keep our hearts humble. Dr.Abdul Hayy (RA) also advised to keep asking Allah SWT by talking and speaking to Allah SWT. Who will do long and tedious mujahida these days! If one does just these two acts, he will get the kurb (closeness) of Allah SWT. Every single time keep asking Allah SWT and be grateful to Allah SWT. May Allah SWT grant us all the understanding of deen. Ameen

-Morning Tarbiati Majlis- 29.1.2017

Do Not Trouble Other People

Aoudhubillahi minash shaitan nirrajeem



All praise is for Allah. We praise Him and seek His help and ask Him for forgiveness. And we believe in Him and trust in Him. We seek refuge in Allah, from the mischief of our souls and from our evil deeds. He whom Allah guides none can mislead and whom He leaves to stray none can guide. And, we bear witness that there is no god except Allah Who is Alone and has no partner, and we bear witness that Sayyidina Muhammad Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam is His servant and Messenger-May Allah bless him and (likewise) his family and Companions. And may He favor him and give him peace.

We have it from Abu Musa al-Ashari Radiyallaahu anhu that the Messenger of Allah Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam has said “A Muslim is he from whose tongue and hands other Muslims are Safe.” (Tirmizi, Book of Faith, Chapter 12)

1.     He is Not a True Muslim

This Hadith is transmitted by Sayyidina Abu Musa al-Ashari Radiyallaahu anhu and it implies that a Muslim is one who does not cause trouble to another Muslim by his tongue or by his hand. The hadith describes a Muslim and tells us that only he is a Muslim who has these attributes. Therefore, if other people are not safe from the hand or tongue of a Muslim then truly this man is not entitled to be called a Muslim. He is like one who does not offer Salat. Although no jurist will decide that such a man is a non-Muslim because he neglects regular Salat yet he is not truly entitled to be called a Muslim because he does not observe the most significant of the duties imposed by Allah. In the same way the person whose hand and tongue cause trouble to other people is not called a disbeliever by a jurist but, in the light of this Hadith, he is not entitled to be called a Muslim because he does not behave like one.

2.     What Is Social Living

There are five sections in Islam.

  1. Belief.
  2. Worship.
  3. Dealings or Behavior.
  4. Character and Manners; and
  5. Social living.

This Hadith is the base on which the fifth section stands. No one lives alone in this world; neither is he asked to live alone. So, he has links with someone or the other-his family, friends, neighbors, and other people, where he buys or sells or he works. How, then should he conduct himself with these people. This is the principle and rule of social living and it is a significant part of religion. Unfortunately, due to our negligence and irresponsible attitude that we have cast it aside and do not even consider it as part of religion. We do not pay heed to the commands of Allah and His Messenger Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam in this regard.

3.     Importance of Social Rules

Allah has given particular importance to social rules for us. We can see it in the way the Qur’an deals with one of the principles of social living: to seek permission before entering anybody’s house. The Arabic word for seeking permission is Istizan Allah has revealed two complete rukus

(Sections) in the Qur’an to describe istizan. We can gauge the importance attached to it from the fact that the command to offer Salat is discussed some sixty-two times in the Qur’an but it is left to the Holy Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam to describe how to offer it. The Qur’an does not tell us the method of offering it. But, details of istizan are mentioned by the Qur’an itself and not left for the Prophet # to describe. Besides, a large portion of surah al-Hujurat is devoted to social laws. Thus, on the one hand such a great importance is attached to social conduct and on the other we ignore that in our daily life and do not even know its rules.

4.     Maulana Thanavi (Rahmatullahi Alaih) Revives Rules of Social Way of Living

In his times, Allah has caused Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanavi Rahmatullahi alaih to revive those sections of religion that had been put in the background. People had forgotten that these were part of our religion. Maulana Thanavi recalled their significance and taught us their rules .It was in his khanqah that he gave it practical shape. It was supposed previously that a khanqah is a recluse: people sit in rooms and chant ‘Allah’ ‘Allah’ and occupy themselves in zikr (remembrance of Allah, devotional exercises) and worship. Maulana Thanavi did not lay as much emphasis on zikr and optional worship as he placed on social conduct. He educated his disciples to avoid inconveniencing other people. He used to say that when his disciples failed to observe the devotional exercises that he prescribed, he felt sorry for their dereliction but when he learnt of one of them violating social conduct or causing hardship to someone he felt hatred for that man.

5.     First Become a Human Being

It is known, too, that Maulana Thanavi Rahmatullahi Alaih frequently said, “If you wish to become a Sufi or an ascetic then you will find many other khanqahs for that purpose where you may go. If you wish to perfect yourself as a human being, you should come here. We mold them here. To become a Muslim, a Scholar or a Sufi is the next step and it is a higher status. You must first enter the human field, and come out of the rows of animals. You can only achieve that by learning the Islamic etiquettes of social living and behaving according to them.”

6.     Three Types of Animals

In his ahya ul Ulum, Imam Ghazali Rahmaatullahi alaih has said that Allah has created three types of animals. One of these types are beneficial to mankind and it is very rare that they harm man. Examples of this type are: cows, sheep, and so on. They are beneficial because they give milk and when they do not, they are slaughtered for their meat; that is, they give up their lives to benefit man. These animals do not harm anybody. The second type includes animals that are always harmful to man and there is no apparent benefit from them. Examples of this kind are snakes, scorpions, beasts of prey, and so on; they are all harmful animals. They bite man. The third kind of animals are those animals that neither benefit nor harm. These are found in the wild and include fox, jackal, and others. Man does not gain from them nor is harmed by them to a noticeable extent. After recalling these types of animals, Imam Ghazali Rahmatullahi Alaih addresses man and says, “O Man! You are the Best creation and you enjoy excellence over all animals. If you do not behave as a human being but wish to live as an animal then at least imitate the first kind of animal who benefits other creatures but does not harm them, like the cow and goat. But, if you wish to stoop lower then become like the third type that neither harms nor benefits. If you are not like either of these and cause harm to other people instead of benefitting them then you have grouped with the second type of snakes and scorpions, and the like.”

7.     They Are Human Beings

So we see that the question of Muslim or non-Muslim, scholar or not, ascetic or not, is not of immediate import. The first thing for a man is to behave like humans. To do that it is necessary that he tread the Islamic Social way of living. He should not be responsible for causing even the slightest of inconvenience to anyone else, by his hand or tongue or through any effort whatever. Once Maulana Thanavi Rahmatullahi alaih said in a spirit of humbleness, “Even I am not a perfect and complete human but-praise be to Allah – I have seen what human beings are like. So I cannot be deceived by a bull who claims to be human. So I will aim at that, Inshaa Allah, and will not be deceived into behaving like a bull”.

8.     Save Other People from Harm

As far as voluntary devotional exercises are concerned, no one will be taken to task for omitting these forms of worship but if anyone observes them, he will be rewarded for that in the Hereafter. Nevertheless, these are virtuous deeds, and one must accustom oneself to do them. On the other hand, if anyone is behind the hardship another person suffers then he has committed a grave sin and he will be taken to task for that commission. This is why Shari’ah tells us to abandon voluntary worship when there is a possibility of helping someone out of difficulty or saving him from that.

9.     Importance of Congregational Salat

We know that men are urged strongly to offer their obligatory Salat with the congregation. It is so important that the Holy Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam said, “I feel like appointing someone else to lead the congregational Salat when the time comes and go out myself to visit every house and see if anyone has stayed behind. Then, I should set the houses of those who remained behind a fire because they neglect their duties to Allah.” This shows the importance attached to congregational Salat. Some of the jurist regard offering Salat with the congregation as sunnah muwakkadah but some othres give it the higher status of wajib. Prayer in congregational form is a perfect form while in an individual capacity is an imperfect form. We also have the example of the Holy Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam when he was ill before his death and could not walk with ease and had appointed Sayyidina Abu Bakr Radiyallahu anhu as Imam in his place. At such a moment too, he came to the mosque to offer the congregational prayer supported by two men. This stresses the importance of Salat with the congregation.

10.            When Is One Not Allowed To Go To The Mosque?

The jurists have decided unanimously that a man who is ill and smells badly then he must not go to the Mosque. It is not merely that he is allowed to stay away from congregational prayer but he is not even allowed to join it, and if he joins it, he will be committing a sin. If he joins the congregation, he will inconvenience other people because of the bad odor. We must see that such an important thing as congregational Salat is disallowed if it becomes a cause of inconvenience to other people.

11.            Causing Hardship to other People When Kissing the Black Stone

We all know the importance of the Hajr Aswad (the Black Stone, at Ka’bah). We are told that kissing the Black Stone is like shaking hands with Allah, and it effaces a man’s sins. The Holy Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam and his companions Radiyallahu anhum themselves kissed the Black Stone which also highlights its importance. In spite of that we are advised that if in attempting to kiss it we might push other people and cause them difficulty then it is not proper to kiss it; rather that is sinful. Shariah is very particular that one does not cause another man even a little bit of difficulty. Such important forms of worship as congregational Salat and kissing the Hajr Aswad are abandoned only because we might not hurt anyone else; thus, the lesser forms that are voluntary should also be postponed when such a situation arises.

12.            Reciting the Qur’an Loudly

We may cite the example of reciting the Qur’an, too. It is such a virtuous act that the reciter is rewarded tenfold on reciting each letter. In other words a person amasses rewards when he recites the Qur’an. Of all the devotional exercises, recital of the Qur’an is the most excellent. Then, an audible recital is preferred. An audible recital secures more reward than an inaudible. But, if there is a likelihood of disturbing someone’s sleep because of the sound then it is not allowed to recite audibly.

13.            How did the Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam Arise for Tahajjud Salat

The Holy Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam woke up in the night for Tahajjud Salat. Never in his life did he miss the Tahjjud Salat. But, Allah and His Messenger Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam made it easy for us and did not say that the Tahajjud Salat was obligatory for us although it was so for the Messenger of Allah sallallaahu alaihi wasallam. He never missed it. In spite of that we are told in a Hadith that whenever he got up for Tahajjud he was very quiet and never made a noise or let the door squeak lest the sleep of any of his wives be disturbed. The Qur’an and Hadith tell us that we must not cause the slightest difficulty to anyone.

14.            Praying On the Thoroughfare

It is not proper to offer prayer at a place where people pass by. Some people do not heed this. Take for example the mosque. Although the front rows are vacant, some people pick up the very last row and offer their Salat there. The result is that those who have to go out of the mosque or come into it, find it difficult. Either they make a detour round such people or commit a sin by walking in front of them. To offer Salat in such a manner is not proper. Rather, it is a sin.

15.            ‘Muslim’ includes Security

The Hadith we are discussing may be repeated here “A Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand other Muslims are secure”. The word Muslim is an Arabic word whose root is seen lam meem which is also the root word of the word meaning security. Thus implied security or safety is included in the word Muslim.

16.            The meaning of as-salam ‘Alaikum

When non-Muslims meet they greet each other with a ‘hello’, ‘good morning1, namstay or ‘adab’. They have different words of greetings, but, the Islamic form of greeting is as-salam ‘alykum meaning Peace be on you. Apart from greeting, these words offer a prayer for the safety of the person greeted whereas every other form of greeting does not include any prayer. The addressee receives no benefit thereby. But when a man greets the other with as-salam ‘alay kum Wa rahmat Allah Wa barkatuhu he prays for three blessings as we see in the meaning of these words: Peace be on you and the Mercy of Allah and His Favors. This is a supplication and if it receives the approval of Allah even once, the person addressed benefits for the rest of his life from the blessings. Besides, by using these words the addressee is assured of safety and security at the hands of the speaker. The former is then confident that he will not suffer hardship through the latter. A Muslim, when he greets in this way, conveys to the other that he has brought the message of peace for him and will not torment him.

17.            The Meaning of Security from the Tongue

The Hadith describes a Muslim as one from whose tongue and hand other Muslims are safe. To be safe from the tongue is to be satisfied that he will not say anything that might dishearten the other, cause him difficulty or displease him in any way. So, even when that man is to be censored such words may be used as do not cause heart-burning. For instance, he must be told in simple terms that his action was not proper or that he must re-consider his behavior or that it was not in line with Shari ah. He must not be cursed or taunted. Anything said in an indirect manner that injures is taunt and it causes a deep wound. The Arabic couplet further explains:

“The wound caused by the sword heals sooner

or later but when it is caused by the tongue it

leaves a lasting impression”.

It is better, therefore, to tell anyone plainly that he has wronged rather than taunt him. The Qur’an says:-

O you who believe! Fear Allah and speak words straight to the point (Al-Ahzab. 3370)

Indirect speech is neither desired nor liked. In the present times, we are used to oblique references and round about approach. The listener is hurt by that. People who speak in this manner gain the appreciation of the masses and are said to possess good sense of humor as an orator.

18.            A Unique Incident of Oblique Speech

Someone wrote an article in which he commented on one of the books of Maulana Mahmud ul Hasans Rahmatullahi alaih while making the comments he called the Maulana an infidel or unbeliever. One of the sincere disciples of the Maulana retaliated by citing a literary Persian poem

which, by today’s standards, was a high-ranking criticism with a taunting bent. The poem was (translation)

If you call me an infidel, it pains me not,

Because the light of falsehood never kindles.

You have called me an infidel. In answer, I

call you a Muslim, Because falsehood can only

be repulsed with falsehood.

This means that you have lied by calling me an infidel, so I lie by calling you a Muslim or that ‘you are not a Muslim’. A poet or a literary person would applaud such a response because it is a biting literary reply. The second poet starts by calling him a Muslim but he clarifies his statement when he says that a lie is responded with a like lie. ‘You spoke a lie by calling me an infidel so I speak a lie by calling you a Muslim’. When this man presented his poem to the Maulana, he commented, “You have composed an excellent poem but you have turned the table on him and called him an unbeliever which is not our approach. We do not call anyone a disbeliever.” So, he did not send the poem to the man who had criticized him. Then, the Maulana revised that poem and made an addition, too. He wrote (translation)

If you have called me an infidel, it pains me not

because the light of falsehood never shines. In

answer, I call you a Muslim and instead of the

sour dose, I feed you sugar. If you are a believer

it is indeed very good. But if you aren’t then the

recompense of falsehood is always falsehood.

Ponder over it! That man labels him an infidel, so consigns him to Hell. But, the Maulana could not tolerate even a sentence of biting language against that man which would transgress the limits. Such unseemly language would be used here in this world. We will have to account in the Hereafter for the tongue’s utterance. “Why had we used such a word for another person? Therefore, we must exercise care and speak plainly and say exactly what we mean.

19.            An Incident about a Biting Tongue

My respected father, Maulana Mufti Muhammad Shafi Rahmatullahi alaih used to say that some people have a biting tongue. Such people will always taunt or raise objections. Such behavior causes heart burns. My father narrated an incident to support his point. A man visited a relative. When he went there he found the daughter-in-law of the house very angry. She was speaking rudely to her mother-in-law who was seated nearby. The man asked the elder woman what had angered her daughter-in-law. She said, “There’s nothing, I spoke only two words of reproach and am being punished for that. She is running wild since then and is very angry.” The man asked her what it was that she had spoken and she said, “I only said that her father was a slave and her mother was a slave. Since then she is wild with anger.” Look at that! Those were only two words according to the elder woman. But, they were such words as irritate a person. Taunting words ruin families and create hatred among family members. We must keep away from using them. We must always speak clearly and in a straightforward way.

20.            We must think before we speak

Before we speak anything, we must ponder over the consequence and on how the other person would take it. We must also see how these very words we wish to speak to other people would be received by us if they were spoken to us. The Holy Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam has taught us the principle:

“Prefer for other people what you prefer for yourself. (Tirmizi, Book of Az-zahd (piety))

The Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam has put an end to the setting up of two standards, one for ourselves and one for the others. If Allah grows this attitude in our hearts then we will be free of all the bickering and hatred that we see around us.

21.            The tongue is a great Blessing

The tongue that man has is one of the great blessings of Allah on him. We are enjoying its gratis and it works round the clock from birth to death. We can only understand its value if we imagine ourselves without it. Those who are down with paralysis and cannot speak; they try their best but cannot utter a word. They wish to convey their inner feelings to their dear ones but cannot do so and it is then that they realize the value of the tongue. But, we use this blessing of Allah from morning to evening, day in and day out, like a sharp weapon without thinking for a moment what words we utter with it. This is very wrong. The correct thing is to weigh out words before we speak. If we do that then instead of being a means to deliver us to Hell, the tongue will take us to Heaven and amass for us a wealth for use in the Hereafter, Inshaa Allah.

22.            Let Us Accustom Ourselves to Think Before We Speak

We are told in a Hadith that it is mainly the tongue that will be responsible for flinging its owner face down into Hell. Therefore, we must think before we speak. This does not mean that a man should wait for some time during which he thinks before saying something but when he accustoms himself to think before speaking then he will do it spontaneously. Allah then makes his tongue value its words before it utters them and it will only utter the correct words, never the wrong ones that displease Allah and hurt other people.

23.            Maulana Thanavi’s Case

There was an attendant of Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanavi Rahmatullahi alaih. He was called Bhai Niaz. He was a very cossetted servant and even visitors of the Maulana loved him. He made himself felt by exercising authority on visitors to the khanqah always giving instructions and he was aided in this behavior by the strict system that ruled the khanqah. One of his disciples complained to the Maulana about this man’s behavior and told him that he was a rude man who scolds many visitors. The Maulana did not like that so he summoned Bhai Niaz and reproached him for his rude behaviour and wished to know why he did that. In answer, Bhai Niaz said, “Maulana, fear Allah. Don’t lie!”.  He was not addressing these words to Maulana Thanavi but he had meant to refer to those who had brought about the complaint. They should fear Allah and not lie. On hearing him, the Maulana lowered his head and went away from there saying, “Astaghfir-Allah (I seek Allah’s forgiveness.)” Those who saw this happen were surprised that a menial could speak in this manner to the Maulana who instead of taking him to task for that went away saying AstaghfirAllah. Later on, the Mawalana explained that he had erred in scolding Bhai Niaz without first giving him an opportunity to explain and that is why he had said AstaghfirAllah. The Shariah directs us to allow the accused to defend himself. The truth is that when Allah gives someone the power to recognize truth from falsehood he takes care not to exceed the limits. May Allah give us also such an understanding! Aameen.

24.            It is not proper To Hurt a Non-Muslim Too

Some people suppose that this Hadith excludes the non-Muslims from its application because it defines a Muslim as one who does not hurt another Muslim with his tongue or hand. They contend that the Hadith does not disallow us to hurt a non-Muslim. They are mistaken in thinking so. Muslims are mentioned in the Hadith because generally they live in a Muslim surrounding and have to deal with each other, otherwise the scope of the Hadith extends equally to Muslims and non-Muslims. It is not allowed to cause inconvenience to a non-Muslim too in times of peace. Nevertheless, when Muslims are at war with the infidels then it is a part of the activity to hurt them in pursuance of the objective to diminish their status; but it is not allowed to hurt those unbelievers who are not engaged in war with the Muslims.

25.            Evidence In Support Of This Statement

We find evidence to support our contention in the case of Hazrat Musa Alaihissalam who lived under the rule of the Pharoah in Egypt where everyone was a disbeliever except Hazrat Musa Alaihissalam. It happened that an Isra’ili and a Qubti (copt) were engaged in quarrel. Hazrat Musa Alaihissalam slapped the Qubti who died because of it. Although the man was an unbeliever, Hazrat Musa Alaihissalam considered himself a sinner because he had inadvertently brought about his death.

And they have a crime against me; so I fear they Will Slay me. (Ash-Shuara. 26:14) 

Hazrat Musa Alaihissalam considered the inadvertent killing of the unbeliever to be a sin. The question arises that the man was an unbeliever and slaying the unbelievers is an act of Jihad, then why did Hazrat Musa Alaihissalam call it a sin and sought the forgiveness of Allah for that? The answer is that although the Qubti was a non-Muslim, in times of peace when Muslims and non-Muslims live together the rights enjoyed by Muslims and non-Muslims are similar so that just as it is wrong to hurt a Muslim so too it is wrong to hurt an unbeliever. It pertains to-human rights and the first duty of a man is that he acts like a human being and thereafter he many become a Muslim and a Sufi. It is part of human behavior that he refrains from causing inconvenience to anyone else without distinction of Muslims and non-Muslims.

26.            To Retract On a Promise Is Like Hurting the Other Person with the Tongue

There are certain things that are the same as hurting with the tongue but some people do not consider them in this way. An example is to go back on one’s promise. If anybody assures another person that he will be with him at a certain time or do a certain task for him at the agreed time and then fails to do it then that person to whom the promise was made faces difficulty. The man who had given out the assurance commits the sin of failing to keep his promise and also the sin of causing inconvenience to the other man. This is a form of hurting someone with the tongue.

27.            Greetings while the Qur’an is recited

Sometimes, we do not realize that we are hurting someone with our tongue. We suppose that we are being virtuous but actually we are being sinful because our behavior is causing difficulty to someone else. For instance, to greet another person with as-salamu-‘alay-kum is an excellent thing and rewarding too. But, Shari ah has seen to it that when others are liable to be inconvenienced, the greetings must not be exchanged; it has given instructions on this matter. In fact, on some occasions instead of being rewarding it is sinful to offer greetings to another person. If a man is reciting the Qur’an then he must not be saluted. The salutation will interrupt him and he will have to stop the recital and turn towards the person greeting him which is an inconvenience to him. So, the greeting causes him difficulty with the tongue. In the same way, it is not allowed to salute those already sitting in the mosque because they are remembering Allah, and are engaged in devotional exercises. They have the name of Allah on their lips and they will be disturbed if anybody salutes them.

28.            Greetings When a Meeting Is In Progress

The jurists opine that when someone speaks to other people who listen to him attentively then a new-comer must not salute them even if they are talking about worldly matters. Those people were attentive to the speaker and their attention would be diverted if anyone interrupts them with the salutation. The interruption would be in bad taste. Thus, we are commanded that when we go to an Assembly and the proceedings are on then we must sit down quietly without offering the salams. A salutation at that time will be like hurting them with the tongue. It may be gauged from this principle how very particular Shariah is in forbidding us from inconveniencing other people.

29.            Salutations to One Who Is Eating

Although it is not disallowed to salute a person who is eating his food, it is certainly a disliked behavior to do so if that person is likely to be inconvenienced. That person is not engaged in worship but only eating his food so if anyone salutes him, the mountains will not fall down on him. However, there is a possibility of being disturbed and feeling bad when someone salutes at such a time. In the same way, if someone is seen to hurry along somewhere, it is not correct for us to salute him and extend the hand for a handshake. One must understand by the way he was walking he must be in a hurry. It was not a proper time to salute him and shake hands with him. He should have been allowed to go where he was going. The salutation at such times is like hurting other people.

30.            Prolonging Conversation on the Phone

My respected father Rahmatullahi alaih used to say that telephone is also an instrument through which other people may be harmed. Rather, it is a tool that may be used to create unlimited hardships to other people. Thus, if anyone rings another person and engages him in a long conversation without even considering that he might have been busy in some other task then he is causing him inconvenience. My father, Mufti Muhammad Shafi Rahmatullahi alaih has commented in the Ma’ariful Qur’an that before the caller engages in a long conversation he must let the called person know his intention and ask him if he has that much time or should he call later. He Rahmatullahi alaih has said that this is part of etiquettes of telephonic conversation, and he has defined the long conversation as spanning over five minutes! This is mentioned in the interpretation of surah an-Nur and my father was very particular in observing it.

31.            Use of Loudspeakers

Another example of causing hardship by the tongue is the misuse of the loudspeaker in the mosque. If a few people are to be addressed within the mosque perhaps the internal loudspeaker would suffice. But, if the external loudspeaker is also used then the entire neighborhood is compelled to listen to the address. Some of these people may be reciting the Qur’an or occupied in other tasks or resting. Someone may be ill, they are all subjected to hardship by the tongue.

32.            An Incident of the Times of Hazrat Umar Radhiyallahu anhu

In the times of Hazrat Umar Faruq Sayyidna someone used to come to the Masjid Nabavi and deliver sermons. The abode of Hazrat Aishah Radhiyallahu Anha was just next to the Masjid Nabavi. Although there were no loudspeakers in those days yet this man’s voice was loud and could be heard by Hazrat Radhiyallahu Anha in her room while she was occupied in different household chores or some form of worship like the recital of the Qur’an. She sent a message to Hazrat Umar Radhiyallahu Anhu that this person delivered sermons near her house in a loud voice which disturbed her. She requested that this man may be asked to deliver his sermons elsewhere or subdue his voice. Hazrat Umar Radhiyallahu Anhu summoned the man and explained to him that his behavior annoyed the Mother of the faithful, Hazrat Aishah Radhiyallahu Anha; so he must discontinue his preaching there. That man obeyed and discontinued his preaching for some days. After a few days, however, he again continued his sermons. When Hazrat Umar Radhiyallahu Anhu was informed of that, he summoned him again and warned him that if he did not cease he would smash his rod on him. That is, he would beat him with the rod until it broke up.

33.            Our Behavior Today

If we look at our behavior today we have set aside these principles. If someone is delivering an address in the mosque, he torments the locality around him. The loudspeaker blares at full volume and nobody in the neighborhood is allowed to sleep or rest. If anyone asks them to lower the volume, they taunt him that he is preventing religious effort although it is the speaker in the mosque and the responsible men there who violate the principles of Shariah. They are responsible for the hardship other people suffer. The truth is that it is part of the etiquette of a religious scholar (‘Alim) that he keeps his voice only that high as his audience can listen to him. The voice of an Alim must not go beyond his listeners. Violation of these principles amounts to causing hardship with the tongue. Allah has blessed us with this tongue that we may remember Allah with it, we may convey the truth and we may soothe the hearts of other people but not that we may hurt them.

34.            A Woman of Hell

A Hadith tells us that the Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam was asked about a woman who fasted during the days and kept vigil in the night but she was rude to her neighbors. The Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam said that the woman would go to Hell. Maulana Thanavi Rahmatullahi alaih says in explanation of the Hadith “People must not be put to difficulty unnecessarily and this is more important than individul worship.” That is, fair dealing with other people takes precedence over worship. Maulana Thanavi Rahmatullahi alaih then says that the question of mutual dealings has been shelved these days and no one even tries to explain what it means arid what we are required to do in this regard.

35.            Causing Hardship with the Hand

The second thing that the Hadith under discussion calls for is to refrain from hurting anyone with the hand. Sometimes it is very obvious that we are putting someone to hardship, for example when we beat him. But sometimes we put him to hardship but our society does not think of that in those terms, although there are So many ways in which we may cause hardship to another person. By mentioning the hand, the Hadith includes all the deeds performed by man because he performs most of them by his hand. The Ulama include all the deeds performed by man whether he uses his hands for that or not.

36.            To Put Something Out Of Place

We can give the example of people living together. There are many things of common use, for instance towel, utensils, soap and so on. If one member uses any of these things and then does not replace it at its proper place, the others are inconvenienced when they have to look for it here and there. The first person is responsible for the inconvenience and it is a hardship to which the others are put which the Hadith forbids us to do.

37.            A Grave Sin

My father taught us even those things which we consider trifle. When we were young we too would commit such mistakes. We would use something and then misplace it and, not finding it at its proper place, he would have to search for it. He told us once that apart from being bad manners, it was a grave sin not to put something back at its proper place after use. This misdeed causes inconvenience to a Muslim and it is a grave sin to do that. Before that we had not known that it was a grave sin to put anything at a wrong place. This was an example of hurting anyone with the hand.

38.            Causing Hardship to Family and Relatives

It must be understood that the foregoing does not presuppose that those with whom we live together are strangers alone. They could be our family members and relatives too. Generally, we do not feel that we are causing hardship to our close relatives like wife, children, brothers and sisters; some people say that it does not matter if these relatives suffer hardship because they are relatives, after all. This is a wrong approach. It is not the fault of those people that they are our relatives that we cause them hardship. We must remember that our beloved Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam woke up for Tahajjud Salat and was very quiet in everything that he did lest he disturb Hazrat Aishah Radhiyallahu anha in her sleep. So, just as we are forbidden to cause hardship to strangers so too we must not cause hardship to the folk of our homes and our relatives.

39.            To stay away At the Times of Meals

For instance, it is a grave sin for a man to be away from home at the times of meal after assuring his family members that he will be there and have his meal with them so they are kept waiting and wondering where he is. It often happens that such a man does not worry about his family members or his commitment and eats out while they wait for him. He is committing a grave sin in this manner because he hurts someone whom Allah has joined to him in marital relations. Such a man must inform his family members if he is delayed so that they are at rest concerning him. But people do not think of it from this angle because a wife is supposed to be a subordinate and she may be put to inconvenience, although it is wrong and forbidden, and a grave sin to do so.

40.            It Is Forbidden To Dirty the Thoroughfare

Another example of hurting someone by the hand is to throw something on a thoroughfare, a banana peel or any dirty thing. The passers-by will suffer because of that or someone may slip and fall down when he puts his fool on it. The person who is responsible for that will be answerable on the Day of Resurrection for his misdeed. Even if no passer-by is inconvenienced yet because of dirtying the thoroughfare the person throwing it will have committed a sin. We are told about the Holy Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam that whenever he was travelling and felt the urge to urinate, he would search for a proper place to do it in the same manner one looks out for a place to build his house. He did this to avoid dirtying a pathway and thus causing the passers-by an inconvenience. The Holy Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam has said, “Faith has over seventy branches, the most excellent of these is to declare the kalimah, “There is no god but Allah and Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah”. And the humblest form is to remove offensive and injurious things from the thoroughfare.” These things could be a thorn or a peel and their removal is the most minor form of faith. Thus when removal of injurious things from the road is a branch of faith the throwing of such things on the road could be a branch of disbelief.

41.            It Is Forbidden To Cause Mental Agony to Any one

Maulana Thanavi Rahmathullahi alaih has said that the Hadith under discussion refers to actions of the tongue and hand but it also includes any action by the tongue or hand that causes someone else a mental agony. For instance, if a man borrows money from someone and promises to return

it at a certain date then he must return it by that day. If he cannot repay the sum borrowed on the promised day then he must request for more time but he must not try to fool the lender and cause him mental torture. Let not the lender keep waiting for the debtor to make an appearance so that the poor fellow cannot make a proper planning because he does not know when he will get back his money.

42.            Agonizing One’s Servants

Maulana Thanavi Rahmatullahi alaih goes so far as to say that a person must not at once ask his servant to do more than one task in sequence. In this way, the master frees himself of remembering the tasks but shifts the responsibility of remembering them on his servant. If it is not necessary to do so then the servant must not be burdened with the responsibility to remember. He must be asked to finish a task and when he is through, he should be given the next task, and so on in this manner. The Maulana said about himself that he always followed this method. After his servant finished one task, he instructed him to do the other and then the next. The Maulana said, “I remember the duties my servant has to be instructed with and I do not shift the burden to his memory. He is thus not under a mental pressure. He knows that when he has completed one assignment, I will instruct him with the next.” The Maulana Rahmatullahi alaih was a far-sighted man.

43.            Where Should One Wait for a Worshipper Engaged In Salat

Continuing with examples of how one does inconvenience other people, we may cite the case of a man waiting for another who is offering his Salat. Such a man must not sit next to the worshipper so that he senses that the man is waiting for him and his attention is diverted into hurrying through the Salat. The worshipper feels he must not keep the man waiting so hurries through the postures of prayer. The proper thing for the man who is waiting is to wait at some distance so that the worshipper is not disturbed and offers his Salat peacefully. He” may meet him after he finishes his Salat without knowing that someone was waiting for him. The first method of sitting next to the worshipper making him realize that someone waits for him is wrong. It causes him mental agony. Al Hamdulillah, our elders and teachers applied themselves equally to all branches of religion. They did not take up one or two branches and exclude the rest, the Qur’an says

O you who believe! Enter completely into Islam (Al Baqarah. 2:208)

Let it not be that you, O Believers! Pay attention to the branch of worship like Salat, Fasting and so on, but by-pass social conduct, fair dealing and good manners as prescribed in Islam.

44.            Adab ul Mu ‘ashirat

Maulana Thanavi Rahmatullahi alaih has composed a small book in Urdu by the name of Adabul Mu ashirat. It is worth reading. The Maulana Rahmatullahi alaih has stated in the book that he could not write down all the social etiquettes in the book but he has nevertheless collected there in as many as he could recollect. He has suggested that the reader would read the book and go on behaving as the book wants him to behave and gaining knowledge of all the social etiquettes as prescribed by Islam. Allah will open up his mind for him. Thus it is a part of social manners that a man may park his car in such a way that no one else is obstructed; it is also part of religion. We have forgotten these things today and are, therefore, sinful. At the same time we present a wrong picture of religion. Anyone looking at us would say that we are regular at Salat but careless in cleanliness and quick at causing hardship to other people. We must try to think what picture of Islam our behavior presents to a non-Muslim, would he be attracted to it after observing us? Or, would he be repelled? May Allah guide us! Instead of behaving as good specimens of Muslims, and inviting other people to Islam by our conduct, we have become instrumental in turning them away from Islam. We have paid scant attention to the branch of social manners.

May Allah cause us not to be neglectful in this regard-myself and everyone else. May He inspire us to comprehend correctly and to conduct ourselves fairly on all branches of religion. Aameen

And our concluding prayer is: “Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds!”.

-Discourses on Islamic way of life by Mufti Taqi Uthmani Sahib (DB). Volume-8

Reformation of heart

Aoudhubillahi mianshshaitaa nirrajeem



Reforming the inner is indeed difficult

The pious elders didn’t pay much attention to the outwardly deeds as their reformation can be done in a minute with a mere change of intention. A be-namaazi (one who does not pray) can start praying in a minute, a beardless man can start growing the beard in a minute, a drunkard can give up drinking in a minute. A faasiq and a faajir can become pious in a minute. It was the akhlaaq of one’s inner-self such as getting rid of kibr (pride) etc. to which they paid more attention for certainly it is a very difficult task. The reformation of inner-self from spiritual diseases such as hub-e-jah (love for name and fame), kibr, jealousy, high thinking of oneself, rancor, the desire for praise etc. is very difficult. When a be-namaazi gets a righteous environment will start to pray tahajjud salah even in masjid-un-Nabawi but it is not guaranteed that one’s kibr leaves his heart this easily. A man gets the environment of Makka mukarrama and he will reach the masjid even before the prayer commences but this does not mean he will get rid of jealousy and rancor in his heart in a same manner. It is not easy to end the quest for fame and worldly things. So one can change his outer appearance quickly but the spiritual diseases goes away with time as a person keeps going on the spiritual path. In fact the weight of a person’s outer deeds solely depends on his inner self. The more his heart is clean, heavier will be his outer deeds and there will be more noor. A man is fortunate to get rid of his spiritual diseases.

A person might be establishing tahajjud salah but have rancor in his heart and have love for the world. The love for world does not necessarily mean the love for wealth but it also comprises the love for honor, fame and praises. There is a widespread disease in our society today and that is to praise the person on his face. This is like slaughtering him with a sharp knife. A person can be worthless but on continuously hearing praises he thinks high of himself. In order to get the job done, some praise others with big words making him to feel great of himself. Such an environment is expanding now. This is a disease where a person yearns for praises and he starts getting people surrounding him with praises. As far as the one who speaks the truth talking about his islaah, he won’t be in his company. Only those who falsely praise him sit with him. Our elders thus considered very easy to change the outer appearance of a person by surrounding him with a good environment that changes a be-namaazi to namaazi (the one who prays), a beardless man to a bearded man and a drunkard man into a non-alcoholic. How many come running towards masjid during the blessed environment of Ramadhan! But attaching a person’s heart to akhirah and to de-bond his heart with this dunya is very difficult. To get the zuhd of dunya and quest for akhirah takes time and with much difficulty one gets rid of spiritual diseases. Because of these inner diseases, the noor of the outer aamaal do not shine on the heart. Let Allah SWT protect us. Hubb e jhaa is said to be such a disease whose very presence is known with much difficulty. Only when you hear something related to it, you realize that you are afflicted with that disease. To know our quest for honor and fame is not so easy.

Be strict on your nafs

It has been said that to lower one’s gaze is difficult and if one violates this rule, he should pray 50 units of voluntary salah. Only if one is strict on his nafs and imposes severe penalty on it, it will reform. It is very important to protect one’s gaze. The following are the signs of one’s acceptance by Allah Azzawajal are: he holds correct religious beliefs, he is steadfast in doing aamaal, he keeps away from sins and he hates the world. Once a man came to the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wasallam and asked him sallallaahu alaihi wasallam to show him such an amal by which he becomes beloved to Allah Azzawajal and also to the people. Our beloved Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wasallam replied, “Do not love this world, you will become beloved to Allah Azzawajal and do not yearn for what people have or throw desirous look on their possessions, you will become beloved of people”. The sign of hard heartedness and rusted heart is no hatred for sins and no attachment to Allah’s obedience. Let Allah Azzawajal protect us. The hatred for sins is very essential because only then he can save himself from committing sins. A very effective way of saving oneself from such a state is to keep oneself away from the sinful environment. A man may not commit sins but if he keeps sitting in the sinful environment, he will reach a state when he will not hate the sins. This is like a person who lives in cow’s shed. After a time, he won’t sense the foul smell of cow dung. In fact when he is out of shed, he falls unconscious. When people tried to bring in him consciousness with different things, he didn’t gain any consciousness and when a man brought cow dung near his nose, he immediately woke up. Similarly when a person becomes accustomed to a sinful environment, not just he loses hatred for sins but he enjoys sinning. Let Allah Azzawajal protect us. When a person is in a righteous environment, Allah Azzawajal grants him the wealth of righteousness. How many of us are here who didn’t even know that we have such and such spiritual disease until Allah Azzawajal sent a man of clean heart to us and then we start feeling uneasiness of our sinful environment! People say we don’t have good intention and good perception but actually we have become just like how our environment was. So not having any hatred towards sins and desire to do obedient acts are a sign of hard heartedness. As I said before an effective way of coming out of it is to create a righteous environment around us and in case we are to go to the sinful environment to meet our needs, then try to move out of the place as fast as you could. If not it would become very difficult to sense the sins as he will start considering it to be something very normal by seeing that continuously around him.

Prefer health to voluntary acts

It has been said that one’s health should be prioritized over recommended or voluntary acts. For example, after fajr salah sitting in the masjid waiting for ishraaq salah is a voluntary act and accordingly you get reward. But if one’s health demands that he goes for a walk daily and he doesn’t get time for that except at this particular time, then going for walk in a corrupt free environment is better for him than doing the voluntary act. You can go to house and pray ishraaq. On one hand if you have voluntary acts and on the other hand your health, then take more care of your health. Preserving one’s health is better than recommended acts and going towards woods for a walk is better than sitting in masjid waiting for ishraaq with devotion. One can postpone the ishraaq and can even pray in house. We should give importance for health as we are weak people. You would have noticed that when you are healthy, you find pleasure in reading Quran and other voluntary acts, and one gets strength to do many righteous deeds. If one gets affected by health, he won’t even be able to do what he is doing already. If one has headache, hip pain etc. what can he do? Let health be taken care of. SubhanAllah! Our deen is very moderate but if you start understanding the deen in your own way, then it would look difficult.

Pay attention to only Allah’s pleasure

It has been said that the student of haqq is not bothered about others hostility as his main concern is Allah’s pleasure. One should not create enmity intentionally but if it happens while preaching the truth, then Allah Azzawajal is there for help. One should concentrate only on Allah’s pleasure. Most of the times it so happens that people’s displeasure saves one from many calamities. The friends might be displeased with you for becoming pious but the deen saves you from many calamities. So when I am indulged in pleasing Allah Azzawajal, then why should I care about the creatures’ displeasure? What can be more dangerous than the sin? And what can be more dangerous than the sinful environment? So if someone becomes angry while pleasing Allah Azzawajal, you should not worry. Who knows from how many sins you were saved! And from how many calamities you were saved! So you should not worry about it. We should only think that our Allah Azzawajal do not become displeased with us.

To summarize, three points have been emphasized. (1) To reform one’s outer appearance is easier than reforming the inner self from pride, jealousy etc. and in fact one gets divine help to perform more outer deeds when his heart gets purified. (2) The sign of hardheartedness is not feeling hatred towards the sins and affinity towards righteous deeds and (3) The student of Allah Azzawajal or the student of truth should care only about Allah’s pleasure and not the creatures’ pleasure. Let Allah Azzawajal help us all to act on what we hear, write and read. Ameen

-Morning Tarbiati Majlis 15.07.2016

How to get affinity towards doing good deeds


Aoudhubillahi minash shaitaanirrajeem


Do not follow your like or dislike towards the aamaal

If an act is compulsory, it has to be done if we like it or not. We cannot wait to do an act only when we have a feeling for it. The medicine has to be taken for sickness. It would be worshipping our heart if we wait for its desire to do an act. We should keep doing aamaal (good deeds) steadfastly irrespective of us being desirous or not. When this continues, attachment will develop towards that act. Attachment won’t happen just like that but it will develop over a time when amal is done regularly. Once we get this affinity we won’t feel good if we do not do that amal and start feeling uncomfortable until we do that act. This is just like the condition of an addicted person when he is deprived of his addiction. One can try enough to stop a person from his addicted thing but he keeps getting back to it. This is the affinity towards that addicted thing.

Stick to the aamaal

The attachment to good deeds happens but it takes time and happens only when we do that act regularly even if we like it or not. We should recite Quran regularly if we like it or not, we should do zikr if we like it or not. As time passes, one can get attachment to tahajjud salah that he would continue doing it for years and years. The barakah of steadfastness in every state of heart condition will lead to attachment to good deeds. The main problem today is people leave the acts when they don’t feel like doing and do acts only when they enjoy doing them. Allah SWT wants to see the quest in you. You just keep doing things. The knowledge and mercy is with Allah SWT and He SWT will definitely grant it. We should do our part by doing acts that will please Allah SWT and His Prophet SAW even if the whole world gets upset over those acts. The main specialty of doing this is, Allah SWT will bow the whole world and the necks of people before us. Over a time, the people of sound nature will automatically love this person and the pride of arrogant people will break apart.

Ease is followed by difficulty

The consequence of our hard work will be peace and the consequence of our exertion will be comfort. For indeed, with hardship will be ease. Indeed, with hardship will be ease. Al Quran: 94:5-6. Today you will exert yourself in doing aaamal and tomorrow that will become your comfort. Today you will be working hard on your aamal with difficulty but soon you will find a time when you will find peace and tranquility in the very same aaamal. Job will be done when you do the job. Do the job and the difficulties will get removed. We can’t keep thinking that we should become so righteous and very pious without doing acts and working hard towards it. We should do something if we want to lead a sinless and a righteous life. Job will be done by doing the job and not just by saying it. Take courage and work hard. The way of Allah SWT is that He SWT will grant ease after difficulty. Do not lose hope and keep fighting against your nafs and shaitan. Today we may have the heart to recite more ajza of Quran and we are reciting it and tomorrow we may not have the heart to recite but if we still force ourselves to recite it then that is mujaahidah, the struggle. It is on this struggle that Allah SWT promises us that He SWT will open up doors of guidance for us.

Be steadfast and the aamaal will show its barakah

A person aims to do aaamal for 41 days and he is finding it difficult to do on the 40th day and if he still does it, he would acquire noor on this single day that he may have attained for the entire 40 days because he did mujaahidah. Our case is we give up when we get such opportunities. The acts can be less but do it regularly and be steadfast even if our hearts do not yearn for them. When a small drop of water keeps falling on the rock continuously, it will create an impression on the rock. On the other hand even if open up the entire tank of water on the rock at once, there won’t be any impression. Benefit will be seen in those acts done constantly. When we fix ourselves to do certain acts regularly, we will definitely find mujaahidah in it as sometimes we may not find any longing towards it and still might be doing it and it is on this we would get the reward and the progress.

Job will be done by doing the job and not just by yearning and desiring for it. Our case is we are so in need of doing good deeds that our aim and outcome of doing good deeds are doing good deeds itself. Our aim is to get the tawfeeq (divine help) to do good deeds. So unless we are doing aamaal we won’t get anything. Unless we really pay due care for the salah and have the concern that we are standing before Allah SWT, we can’t excel our salah. Unless we pay attention to wudhu, we cannot excel our salah. Just hearing and wanting from the heart won’t help us but we should actually work on the deeds. When we continuously do the acts, the act itself will make the barakah prominent. When the acts are done with continuance and proper conditions the acts will themselves display their reality of existence and their barakah becomes apparent and one will realize it. Some people ask what is the wisdom behind doing certain amals? Keep doing amals, the wisdom behind those amals will themselves disclose before you. You will find its barakah all by yourself. You just do the job and give importance for the aamaal.

Something is better than nothing

We should definitely think that our aamaal are not perfect but at the same time we should know that doing something is better than doing nothing. Definitely we should realize that our salah, recitation is not oustanding but we should also know that something is better than nothing. We should not lose hope because yesterday we were not even doing that and today we are doing something and we should be grateful for it. The shaitan takes us to one of the two extremes. Either he gives us so much of hope that we stop worrying about improving our deeds or make us so despair of hope that we give up doing the acts that we are already doing. We should have both fear and hope altogether. We should have the concern that our aamaal is not good enough and we keep trying to improve it. At the same time we should be grateful from heart that Allah SWT has granted us tawfeeq to do the aamaal whatever we are doing. What if we do not even do that? So we should definitely think that our aamaal are deficient but at the same think we should think that something is better than nothing.

You may not have 1 rupee to buy some sweets in the market but if you have just 50 paise then you take that to the market because if not 1 rupee 50 paise will do as it has its value and will be accepted. You may not get too many sweets but will get at least half of it. So whatever aamaal you are doing, you may not get too many rewards but you will get some rewards. Let there be no hope in giving up the aamaal. Do not give up the salaah if thoughts keep coming up in your salah. If you feel you do not have enough concentration in zikr and want to give up and start again when you get concentration, then that is never going to happen. If a person thinks to drive the motorcycle only when he drives perfectly, will he ever learn to drive perfectly? You will drive perfectly only you keep driving. You will sit on the motorcycle, sometimes you might fall off, face something else and only then you will learn to drive perfectly right? It can never happen that you will drive only when you will drive well. Similarly you should work on your aamaal and at the same time you should also have concern to improve it and also you should be grateful from the heart to Allah SWT for whatever aamaal you are doing.

Keep doing and keep getting

Man should never lose hope and should have good opinion about Allah SWT. Allah SWT treats His slave as per his opinion about Him SWT. Yes Allah SWT is very Merciful and Generous but He SWT wants to see the quest in you and how much you are putting the efforts. Keep doing whatever you can and then Allah SWT will treat you by His SWT grace. So keep doing without losing hope. You will fall but stand up, you will fall but stand up and keep doing. Don’t give up. Allah SWT won’t criticize or ignore someone’s hard work and quest. There is a saying, “Keep doing and keep getting”. He SWT will never disappoint you. Strange is the court of Allah SWT. A person can do as many sins he wants but when he turns to Him SWT, everything changes upside down in just one minute. The condition is one should turn to Him SWT with khuloos (sincerity). He SWT is such a Generous Lord. So keep doing. Yeah we accept we are deficient, imperfect and aamaal are not good but keep doing. Do not give up. Let there be just this quest in you that you should acquire the pleasure of Allah SWT. “I want to lead a life pleasing to You SWT. I want to live for You and die for You”. Let this be the true passion in you. So do it as much as you can and stick to it. inshaaAllah Allah SWT will grant you the goal.

Be a critic and be humble

Just turn to Him SWT will sincerity and resolution. If a person never mentioned the name of Allah SWT and spent his entire life only in sins, even for him the doors of Allah’s mercy are open. Whatever is difficult for the slave, it is very easy for Allah SWT. So how can one lose hope in Allah SWT? When Allah’s Mercy shows up then all the dirt of the life gets cleansed but for that quest is the condition. There is no doubt when Allah’s mercy turns to us the dirt of sins of our entire life gets cleansed off but for that turning of Allah’s mercy we should have the true quest.  O Allah! I want to become Your’s and be Your’s. That’s it. It is within the ability of human to bring this quest and Allah SWT has made him responsible for that. So do what is within your ability. Hazrat Gangohi (RA) says that when a person works hard on himself with true quest that he become Allah’s throughout his life and feels that he didn’t achieve anything, then know that he has achieved everything. There are no major sins in his life, no persistence in minor sins and when he sees his good deeds, he finds it defective but has a true quest, then inshaaAllah he will achieve everything. Allah SWT has granted Hazrat Gangohi (RA) a very high status among akaabir (the pious elders) and he was called as the faqih-an-nafs. (Faqih an-Nafs” is among the terminology used by the fuqaha [jurists]. It refers to that person, who after long engagement with the science of fiqh, is granted by Allah Almighty a natural disposition with which one is able to come to correct conclusions [in matters of fiqh] without referring to books.)

Do not give up

Hazrat Gangohi (RA) was the eldest of the akaabir. It was his (RA) saying that if a person feels he did not achieve anything even after the hard work throughout his entire life, then he has achieve everything. Even after the status of a person is established but he still sees himself worthless after leaving not a single stone unturned to achieve his goal, it is this humility that Allah SWT likes in a person. To consider oneself worthless in every moment of his life is humility and this is slavery. So keep doing the job be it perfect or imperfect and inshaaAllah imperfection will turn one day into perfection. A person started learning to write and he couldn’t write the letter “jeem” properly and seeing that he became frustrated that he couldn’t write it correctly. It will be said to this person not to aim for utmost perfection in the beginning itself but keep writing and he will start writing “jeem” properly over a period of time. Initially one may not be attached to a work but keep doing it whatever be the case.

Whenever you get the tawfeeq, do it. Don’t think, “O yesterday I didn’t do and what is the use of doing it today”. You can do things with utmost care but if one day gets missed, do not worry. You can do it again. If you say, “I do for two days, then it gets missed. I again do it for a day or two but gets missed again.” Whatever be the case still do it. Missing for few days is better than leaving it continuously or permanently. So keep doing it. If you did a mistake, repent and start again. One may not have natural association with work but have perseverance and that will do the job. You have the concern for your reformation and you have perseverance and quest to achieve Allah’s pleasure, then do it even if you feel lazy sometimes. So keep doing it and inshaaAllah you will see its barakah all by yourself. Let Allah SWT grant us all the tawfeeq for it. Ameen

-Morning Tarbiati Majlis 19.10.2012




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